Contrasting Imperfections

People always wonder what should be the mantra for a companionship. The answer is very simple. Every companionship- be it spouses, mother-son, father-son, friends and a lot more. All of this is based on a clear rule.

There should exist a contrasting imperfection in either of them. For example, if a better half or friend lacks a sense of humour, it should be supplied by the other half in its fullest. I mean, he should have a brim full of humour.

Another analogy is this: If a person is intelligent to the fullest, his partner should lack it to a great degree. It is very wise to say that the other person should feel the lacking greatly and admire the intellectual- the lacking should be visible. Such contrasting imperfection is very much essential in any companionship- say, marriage. This is the very thing seen in the partner.

With this, the journey will become all the more worthwhile. The persons complement each other and live a long time together. Isn’t it very wise to have a look at?

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Delirious Growth

People around children always are on the verge of excitement. The almost attained delirium is ‘when is the child growing up?’ While most of the children make these ‘grown ups’ sad with the things going up as usual, the ‘bodily grown-ups’ always mutter a few words of dissatisfaction to these. The reason is ‘he is not growing up.’

The readers can judge these mutterers to be mature. But, let me offer a few revelations about them. They seem to think that only their version of growing up is right.

To be clear, every pervert individual thinks that ‘growing up’ is right according to him. For example, alcoholic perverts –however mild they may be– think that the moment the child drinks, he has grown up; lustful people think courting a girl makes him grown up; robbers think stealing the first goods makes him grown up. This can go on and on.

They are so obsessed with the child that they ‘help’ him with everything possible to grow up. Doesn’t this beg the question, ‘who is grown up? The child or the pervert? And more so, what makes him grown up? Is it the stature or the vices? I think the former is very applicable and anything else sounds lame.

An Employer’s Guide

As employers are very strict at picking up their leaders, here come across the mind a few traits to find in these. These are very important to look through in a person’s character. While other qualities seem artificial, these hit right on the bull’s eye.

Take a keen look at them.

  • A hate for sympathy These handpicked people should hate others showing sympathy to them even in hopeless situations. It is wise to see in them a quality that hates being portrayed as a lowly, ‘poor’ or wanting individual. Such people deserve the top spot because this reflects an undying spirit.
  • Having great comeback stories Their life should be full of grit and determination. An indomitable spirit could resolve any glaring difficulties at work. Stories such as rising out of a wheelchair or a hopeless difficulty can instill respect among peers. Some examples or such stories are Edison, Beethoven. Both were deaf. Louise Braille is good too.
  • Dreamy eyes Eyes say everything. People who see a silver lining in every dark cloud do fit the bill here. Dreams can be seen in eyes. This ability can sustain through demanding situations.
  • A pragmatic foresight A clear focus on things that can be achieved is good too. This unwavering mind can help a great deal. Panic should not be the word. This assessment is a pivotal part of the whole endeavour.

No one possessing all these qualities can falter. There is a very fat chance of probing this impossibility. Could they care much?

Talk more, Pay more

People from the lower strata of society always conform to this kind of norm. Whenever their customers approach them, they keep eyes fixated on making big bucks. They cajole their clients into shelling out extra money for services through sweet talk. It is wise to say that such people are not satisfied  monetarily. Being insecure, they maliciously siphon off money from these.

As you approach them, it is very vivid as to where the plot is about to take you. They ask numerous questions and many of them give a vague hint of concern that is artificial. Some of these ‘businessmen’ are very good at counseling problems.

I can relate this mannerism to many taxi drivers, autorickshaw wallahs, barbers, carpenters, plumbers, electricians and more. Recently, a barber did this to me. He asked many things about my native, mother tongue, occupation and even hobbies. Needless to say, I ended up paying more.

What these people think is that they are very smart. When, in fact, the nature can be aptly termed as manipulative. The pleasant thing about the experience is that you become very benevolent and less irksome while paying. This is a very good strategy indeed.

But look more deeply. It begs the question- ethical? And even more, people view your conduct as distasteful. They even think about your upbringing. Thus, it comes across as very unpopular to people. So, strive for a virtuous life!

Honour and Popularity

There is a vast difference between the above two words in many aspects. Honour is greater than popularity. The former (honour) is given to people for sacrifice and such, while the latter (popularity) is taken by a good strategy. Popularity has an ulterior motive- one that cares for oneself. Honour lasts very long for many people.

Let’s look at the different areas in which these words are used.

  • Honour is used for martyrs, people who have sacrificed and suffered for a cause. The examples are saints, soldiers, celebrities known for a cause, activists, freedom fighters and more. This word carries a lot of weight. They are super heroes, etched forever in people’s minds. These are worth emulating and warriors use this word in a lot of their endeavours.
  • Popularity is a bit less appealing than honour. Every celebrity known not to support a cause or inspire people falls into this category. There are a lot of them.

This is a true testimony that something bestowed (honour) is greater than something taken (popularity). Hence, it is wise to always seek honour more than popularity- never advertise yourself. A sacrifice generates more respect. Doesn’t it?