Wild Man

Man is not very different from animals. He has a lot in common with them and mimics most of them on a daily basis. There are numerous characters on God’s good earth that can be fairly compared with man. Let’s look at a few bad qualities man has adopted from animals, insects, birds and later have a look at the good qualities.

Bad qualities

 Here are some bad qualities: There are men who resemble a two-faced amphisbaena; slithering snakes disappearing into woods; lazy sloth; pestering bugs; tail-wagging dogs; color-changing chameleons; large-mouthed crocodiles devouring the flesh along with bones as in cash and valuables; fire-spewing dragons, always spewing insults; reputation-denting termites; wily foxes; loan sharks; web-spinning spiders who create controversies for people; flesh-eating moths; ravenous wolves hunting in packs; chattering monkeys; headstrong bulls and a lot more.

Fairly Good qualities

Some of the good qualities: Singing nightingales; coochie cooing lovebirds; peace-loving doves; faithful dogs; indignant lions and a lot more.

You can see that man is no different. He is at God’s good humour and very close to animals. The thing that is not compatible with them and him is socializing. He is a social animal.

Sharing and Caring

Many people in the world have very different tastes. Something that looks good to one as private, passes as not so private to the other. Many individuals who are not a people’s person, have inhibitions regarding the sharing of their belongings. They have a large subset of things labeled personal and are in no way interested to share them with their partners.

While others share everything with them, these people are very reclusive to this idea. They won’t part with things such as clothes, flash drives, favourite mugs, etc. But, this is in stark opposition to their fellowmen, who regard things more gravely personal such as dentures, toothbrushes, spectacles and etal as not worth sharing.

The former people mostly share things with a large part of their compatriots, just to keep themselves in their good books. While, they may be in their good books, the liberal attitude takes a backseat among their close family. Imagine, who wants to share ‘personal’ belongings with their kin, only to find later that they are lost by the borrower. The liberal friend of the borrower is hated for this.

The people with this mindset wherein there are no inhibitions in sharing, just want to please their friends and are dependent on them for the sake of fun. More the people they acquaint with, more is the fun and frolic expected. This is the very base of relationships prevalent in the society. But, company of friends should be kept after a lot of deliberation.

No one wants to have their secrets revealed in public because of a sour friendship. Do they?

The Absent Pride

People in their day-to-day lives mistakenly take a lot of other unrelated parameters to gauge pride. What they do is jump to conclusions regarding them and never even put a miniscule amount of effort into getting to the depth of the person’s character. A lot of these misconceptions can be cleared by just having a harmless chat with their victim. This willful ignorance is character assassination at its best.

Here are a few of the misconceptions that may hide a number of these listed perceptions of the victim.

  • Self-sufficiency Because of this, many people reject others company and is largely found in businesses and their dealings. For example, why would a person with a prestigious clientele want to accept incompetent offers? This will be harmful to the reputation of his business. He has got all the things needed to sustain him and can never want more. Needless to say, this is not pride.
  • Fear of bad company This fear becomes a barrier in healthy friendships. A friend of mine was rejected another’s company because the person thought of him as a ruffian. The misfit trait he found out was that my friend used first names to address his professors. This was not a gentlemanly conduct in the person’s eyes. So, he kept a distance from him. My friend took this deterrent for pride.
  • Indifference This quality largely effects a perception in many people. I was constantly taken for a haughty person by a relative because of never engaging in a talk with her. The truth was that I was wanting for her to make the first move and ignorant of this perception she developed. Gradually, at the behest of a family member, she made the first move and found me out to be a warm, gentle person. Obviously, I was not proud in this case.

These qualities are mistaken because of a lack of effort to know people. Putting to rest the doubts in their minds, people should soften their defenses inflicted by past wounds. These prejudices can result in otherwise courteous individuals’ character assassination. So, never judge a person without knowing him. The result would be a forfeited healthy relationship. Keep your hasty judgments in check.

Big Bangalore

Life in Bangalore is not at all difficult. All one has to do in order to survive among the populace is just a lot of ‘big’ things. Here are three things to emulate Bangaloreans and survive: say it big, talk big and the last, be big. I say this, being a Bangalorean myself.

  • Saying it big Bangaloreans, when asked about their acquaintances’ and friends’ work information, always add the adjective ‘big’ to the employer. So, people’s relatives and friends always work for ‘big’ companies- whether you like it or not. All of them work for ‘big’ MNCs, ‘big’ German engineering firms, ‘big’ corporates and so on. This fad is so deep into its people that even a famous FM Radio channel makes big money here and is named ‘Big FM’.
  • Talking big Here, whenever people get stuck in traffic snarls and flout rules, there comes a ‘big’ factor into play too. When the law enforcers catch them, they talk ‘big’ things and the officials let them go out of fear. Once, I was caught with my friend by a traffic cop. Being near to an Air Force area, my friend talked ‘big’ that he was from Air Force. We were not apprehended and let go scot-free. His well-built physique played the trick.
  • Being big This is an added advantage. One need not do the above two things and lie, if you have this trump card. Life can be like a lion here, if a person is big- needless to say. As it is said, ‘Lions rule, dogs dither’.

Hence, everybody in Bangalore should strive to make it big. Only then, life is more colourful and easy here. Being big makes a big difference in my city and no one can chain a lion. That’s for sure.

The Tyranny of Unearned Respect

People in various families have an inherent tendency to entrust their care into villainous individuals’ hands, who don’t deserve the spot. These undeserving people rule with an iron hand. Most of their antics are related to favouritism and manipulation. Many gullible people have fallen prey to their whims.

Rather than regretting their deliberations later, the best a victim can do is to handpick these candidates thoroughly. Leaving no lacunae in this process, all should be done well to ensure the presiding elders are worthy. These can qualify to be those who have earned their respect among the family members- preferably, popular ones.

I remember a man who was duped by a haughty lady. The eerie nature of the dupe amounting to a few lakhs of rupees was that the victim considered her a mother, when in fact, she was just a relative. After this heist, it was impossible for him to recover the money. All her vile tactics had been implemented and the thoughts she had put into his mind had bore fruit. What resulted was a tremendous mess of relationships. All he could do was detest the vile nature of the woman.

Absolutely nothing can be done to preempt such type of fraud. All a person can do is to understand that the ‘motherly’ nature of the woman is not biological, and hence, is a reason enough to reconsider the overdependence on her decisions. Having blind faith in her deliberations is not a good thing to do. He should hear other kinsmen and not blindly trust her. It would do good for him not to remain objective in his opinions about trustworthy people throughout- another trace of this dupe.

People should welcome others inhibitions and benefit from them.

Of Brawn with Brains

People in the post pubescent stage uptill adolescence have a keen interest in idols of perceived belligerence. But, as the years wane down their enthusiasm for spite, these idols lose sheen in their minds. Imagine elders –presumably, not those ‘young at heart’– reprimanding the youth for lack of sensitivity. These people of wisdom do not approve of insensitivity towards fellowmen for a very well-thought-of reason.

The trigger-happy youth idols do gain a huge following for their enthusiasm, but nonetheless, never acquire respect. Respect and reputation are gained by working hard. And these very things help one bolster a place in people’s minds, never to lose it. Otherwise, people change sides or shift loyalties to different idols.

Dilip Vengsarkar was very impressed with Sachin Tendulkar right from the start of his career. A very great quality, he reckons, is the lack of authoritarianism in Tendulkar. As the Chief Selector, Tendulkar built a reputation in his eyes, and this sustained him through a large part of his career. In fact, he admonished Kapil Dev for suggesting that Sachin retire from ODIs.

Hence, people should use some brains to imbibe morals in them and build a reputation. This makes the going easy in perilous times, when the gallows beckon. Be warned.

Writers’ Dilemma

Writers should be well prepared to describe their work to the uninitiated. Often, the thought that a freelance writer works from home without going to ‘office’ makes people think that he helps family members in domestic chores. While the domestic chores thing is right to an extent such as tending to dogs that are adorable, doing the dishes is not a writer’s task.

Many ‘thinkers’ who are pensioners often query about this thing.

Tomorrow may be hell, but today was a good writing day, and on a good writing day, nothing else matters- Neil Gaiman

Writing is an interesting profession, wherein people write blogs too. This is purely for the love of writing and to showcase their talent. The monetary benefit is irrelevant, thought the activity helps in the long run.

Clients get drawn to your writing because they see that the articles are impassioned. The more you write, the more people can be reached. People acknowledging your writing comes down as cool wind in the hair. Well, at least for me. The untold story should be told and it never dies down without lingering in your heart.