People around children always are on the verge of excitement. The almost attained delirium is ‘when is the child growing up?’ While most of the children make these ‘grown ups’ sad with the things going up as usual, the ‘bodily grown-ups’ always mutter a few words of dissatisfaction to these. The reason is ‘he is not growing up.’
The readers can judge these mutterers to be mature. But, let me offer a few revelations about them. They seem to think that only their version of growing up is right.
To be clear, every pervert individual thinks that ‘growing up’ is right according to him. For example, alcoholic perverts –however mild they may be– think that the moment the child drinks, he has grown up; lustful people think courting a girl makes him grown up; robbers think stealing the first goods makes him grown up. This can go on and on.
They are so obsessed with the child that they ‘help’ him with everything possible to grow up. Doesn’t this beg the question, ‘who is grown up? The child or the pervert? And more so, what makes him grown up? Is it the stature or the vices? I think the former is very applicable and anything else sounds lame.
Mainstream cinema in India has evolved over the years and a keen look at it shows that it is directly moulds the culture that is perceived by the common man. It is a widely followed medium and people are found raring to go watch any recent releases. So, there is a direct influence on its large audience and hence, a whole populace because of this.
1.4 crore Indians go to movies on a daily basis, which is roughly 1.4% of the population.
Cocktail (2014), Yeh Jawaani Hain Deewani (2013), Shuddh Desi Romance (2013) are some of the movies that show a different attitude towards the perceived Indian culture. The main characters, here, are found to be a bit bent towards the taboo side. The female lead is a strong crusader of nightlife; does not mind to have a drink or two; even smokes or has ‘crazy’ ideals and more.
The fan following of these celebrities is overwhelming on twitter: Deepika Padukone has a fan numbering of 54,40,000; Kalki Koechlin has 1,90,000 followers; Parineeti Chopra boasts of 16,00,000 followers. This makes the impact more profound.
These trends are soon going to catch up sure, as they did from the Polka dots in Bobby (1973) to well-toned abs in Pyaar Kiya Toh Darna Kya (1998). People can become more comfortable with such ideals. Cinema surely shapes a civilization that has these traits in it long before, but does not approve them publicly. A new generation beckons.
There is a lot of confusion around, regarding morality being subjective. While it is true that morality differs from person to person, a very important thing itself should not be dismissed. It changes from one to another because people tend to be right in their own eyes. For consideration, a grave thing that they collectively as a culture abhor, gets imbued in their conscience. But, due to individual antics, exceptions regarding certain morals start cropping up.
This subjectivity in morals is no excuse for the total nonexistence of a predefined and standard set of morals that predate the human race.
If people in some culture perceive body piercings as a taboo, individuals privy to that culture follow suit. This makes everyone with piercings detested and frowned upon.
People who can’t overcome certain habits evil to their body such as smoking develop a soft corner for smokers. This, they do much against their existing cultural affiliations.
A lot of these exceptions to rules throughout cultures and individual affiliations, make up the subjective morals in society. These individualistic and group affiliations do not negate a definitive moral code in everybody’s conscience, which is in play. ‘The odd one is out’, yes. But, people need to get a bigger picture. This can transcend the paltry moral subjectivity.
Nobody in this world owes a favor to anybody. The favor is transformed into a lot of immeasurable qualities. The best example of an immeasurable quality is the unnoticed-but-effective prayers. No one knows the hearty prayers a person has offered for the benevolent giver as a token of appreciation. And this very prayer translates into material and spiritual blessings. The best part of this is that the action goes unnoticed- nobody knows the source of the blessing he becomes privy to.
People bragging about being helpful, makes no sense. Their flawed perception is because of the very fact that they define and attach a value to every material thing owed. This makes sense to say that more is the value attached to a material lent, more is the gratitude expected.
An interesting aspect of this argument is that only materialistic people expect gratitude or a returned favor. This begging and bragging attitude is actually a test of probing materialistic people.
There are many things in this world that do not come under the tag of value and this stupidity of acting big and mentioning the favor in talks is nonsensical. A lack of true education, shanty culture and warped thinking can lead to this ‘less-endowed’ individual being dubbed a picaninny of sorts.
A few of the things that cannot be valued are prayer, affection, blessing, love, warmth, godly peace, grace- the list goes on and on.
Thus, people who talk in ‘favor’ language is the very first sign of lack of intellect to me and a very bad impression. Such people with a lot of carnality imbued in their mind make me sick in my gut. This is not real education in that they do not understand such a simple thing. The world is full of ‘educated mean’ people. Break free from your reverie- you never know, the favor may have been returned at a subtler level.
Bangalore is known for its salubrious climate and is teeming with a vibrant population. The technological advancements here are solely driven by these industrious engineers who are on a war footing. There are summer palaces of many medieval kings that are tell tale signs of the footprints of aristocracy deeply etched in the sands of time.
Modern Bangalore is known for pothole ridden and waterlogged roads, battering thunderstorms, frequent power outages, uprooted trees, ill-equipped emergency services, haphazard town planning, lack of coordination between civic agencies, irate mobs craving for action, hooligans on the prowl, uncivilized populace, developmental projects hanging in a limbo, people aping the west and repulsive to their tradition and culture. All these impede the development of this city and make it a soulless city discouraging cohabitation.
This does not negate the fact that it is a technological hub of India and the civic amenities here are of high standards. The indomitable spirit of Bangaloreans takes precedence over the aforesaid issues plaguing its urban populace. A stroll through the boulevards of this place can toss your inhibitions regarding it aside. Let go of them and take a breather.