Talk more, Pay more

People from the lower strata of society always conform to this kind of norm. Whenever their customers approach them, they keep eyes fixated on making big bucks. They cajole their clients into shelling out extra money for services through sweet talk. It is wise to say that such people are not satisfied  monetarily. Being insecure, they maliciously siphon off money from these.

As you approach them, it is very vivid as to where the plot is about to take you. They ask numerous questions and many of them give a vague hint of concern that is artificial. Some of these ‘businessmen’ are very good at counseling problems.

I can relate this mannerism to many taxi drivers, autorickshaw wallahs, barbers, carpenters, plumbers, electricians and more. Recently, a barber did this to me. He asked many things about my native, mother tongue, occupation and even hobbies. Needless to say, I ended up paying more.

What these people think is that they are very smart. When, in fact, the nature can be aptly termed as manipulative. The pleasant thing about the experience is that you become very benevolent and less irksome while paying. This is a very good strategy indeed.

But look more deeply. It begs the question- ethical? And even more, people view your conduct as distasteful. They even think about your upbringing. Thus, it comes across as very unpopular to people. So, strive for a virtuous life!

Honour and Popularity

There is a vast difference between the above two words in many aspects. Honour is greater than popularity. The former (honour) is given to people for sacrifice and such, while the latter (popularity) is taken by a good strategy. Popularity has an ulterior motive- one that cares for oneself. Honour lasts very long for many people.

Let’s look at the different areas in which these words are used.

  • Honour is used for martyrs, people who have sacrificed and suffered for a cause. The examples are saints, soldiers, celebrities known for a cause, activists, freedom fighters and more. This word carries a lot of weight. They are super heroes, etched forever in people’s minds. These are worth emulating and warriors use this word in a lot of their endeavours.
  • Popularity is a bit less appealing than honour. Every celebrity known not to support a cause or inspire people falls into this category. There are a lot of them.

This is a true testimony that something bestowed (honour) is greater than something taken (popularity). Hence, it is wise to always seek honour more than popularity- never advertise yourself. A sacrifice generates more respect. Doesn’t it?

Wild Man

Man is not very different from animals. He has a lot in common with them and mimics most of them on a daily basis. There are numerous characters on God’s good earth that can be fairly compared with man. Let’s look at a few bad qualities man has adopted from animals, insects, birds and later have a look at the good qualities.

Bad qualities

 Here are some bad qualities: There are men who resemble a two-faced amphisbaena; slithering snakes disappearing into woods; lazy sloth; pestering bugs; tail-wagging dogs; color-changing chameleons; large-mouthed crocodiles devouring the flesh along with bones as in cash and valuables; fire-spewing dragons, always spewing insults; reputation-denting termites; wily foxes; loan sharks; web-spinning spiders who create controversies for people; flesh-eating moths; ravenous wolves hunting in packs; chattering monkeys; headstrong bulls and a lot more.

Fairly Good qualities

Some of the good qualities: Singing nightingales; coochie cooing lovebirds; peace-loving doves; faithful dogs; indignant lions and a lot more.

You can see that man is no different. He is at God’s good humour and very close to animals. The thing that is not compatible with them and him is socializing. He is a social animal.

Sharing and Caring

Many people in the world have very different tastes. Something that looks good to one as private, passes as not so private to the other. Many individuals who are not a people’s person, have inhibitions regarding the sharing of their belongings. They have a large subset of things labeled personal and are in no way interested to share them with their partners.

While others share everything with them, these people are very reclusive to this idea. They won’t part with things such as clothes, flash drives, favourite mugs, etc. But, this is in stark opposition to their fellowmen, who regard things more gravely personal such as dentures, toothbrushes, spectacles and etal as not worth sharing.

The former people mostly share things with a large part of their compatriots, just to keep themselves in their good books. While, they may be in their good books, the liberal attitude takes a backseat among their close family. Imagine, who wants to share ‘personal’ belongings with their kin, only to find later that they are lost by the borrower. The liberal friend of the borrower is hated for this.

The people with this mindset wherein there are no inhibitions in sharing, just want to please their friends and are dependent on them for the sake of fun. More the people they acquaint with, more is the fun and frolic expected. This is the very base of relationships prevalent in the society. But, company of friends should be kept after a lot of deliberation.

No one wants to have their secrets revealed in public because of a sour friendship. Do they?

The Tyranny of Unearned Respect

People in various families have an inherent tendency to entrust their care into villainous individuals’ hands, who don’t deserve the spot. These undeserving people rule with an iron hand. Most of their antics are related to favouritism and manipulation. Many gullible people have fallen prey to their whims.

Rather than regretting their deliberations later, the best a victim can do is to handpick these candidates thoroughly. Leaving no lacunae in this process, all should be done well to ensure the presiding elders are worthy. These can qualify to be those who have earned their respect among the family members- preferably, popular ones.

I remember a man who was duped by a haughty lady. The eerie nature of the dupe amounting to a few lakhs of rupees was that the victim considered her a mother, when in fact, she was just a relative. After this heist, it was impossible for him to recover the money. All her vile tactics had been implemented and the thoughts she had put into his mind had bore fruit. What resulted was a tremendous mess of relationships. All he could do was detest the vile nature of the woman.

Absolutely nothing can be done to preempt such type of fraud. All a person can do is to understand that the ‘motherly’ nature of the woman is not biological, and hence, is a reason enough to reconsider the overdependence on her decisions. Having blind faith in her deliberations is not a good thing to do. He should hear other kinsmen and not blindly trust her. It would do good for him not to remain objective in his opinions about trustworthy people throughout- another trace of this dupe.

People should welcome others inhibitions and benefit from them.

Of Brawn with Brains

People in the post pubescent stage uptill adolescence have a keen interest in idols of perceived belligerence. But, as the years wane down their enthusiasm for spite, these idols lose sheen in their minds. Imagine elders –presumably, not those ‘young at heart’– reprimanding the youth for lack of sensitivity. These people of wisdom do not approve of insensitivity towards fellowmen for a very well-thought-of reason.

The trigger-happy youth idols do gain a huge following for their enthusiasm, but nonetheless, never acquire respect. Respect and reputation are gained by working hard. And these very things help one bolster a place in people’s minds, never to lose it. Otherwise, people change sides or shift loyalties to different idols.

Dilip Vengsarkar was very impressed with Sachin Tendulkar right from the start of his career. A very great quality, he reckons, is the lack of authoritarianism in Tendulkar. As the Chief Selector, Tendulkar built a reputation in his eyes, and this sustained him through a large part of his career. In fact, he admonished Kapil Dev for suggesting that Sachin retire from ODIs.

Hence, people should use some brains to imbibe morals in them and build a reputation. This makes the going easy in perilous times, when the gallows beckon. Be warned.

Writers’ Dilemma

Writers should be well prepared to describe their work to the uninitiated. Often, the thought that a freelance writer works from home without going to ‘office’ makes people think that he helps family members in domestic chores. While the domestic chores thing is right to an extent such as tending to dogs that are adorable, doing the dishes is not a writer’s task.

Many ‘thinkers’ who are pensioners often query about this thing.

Tomorrow may be hell, but today was a good writing day, and on a good writing day, nothing else matters- Neil Gaiman

Writing is an interesting profession, wherein people write blogs too. This is purely for the love of writing and to showcase their talent. The monetary benefit is irrelevant, thought the activity helps in the long run.

Clients get drawn to your writing because they see that the articles are impassioned. The more you write, the more people can be reached. People acknowledging your writing comes down as cool wind in the hair. Well, at least for me. The untold story should be told and it never dies down without lingering in your heart.